Handling and Healing a Miscarriage
Miscarriage (a spontaneous abortion) is one pregnancy complications. Cramping in abdomen and bleeding are two most common signs of miscarriage.
This type of pregnancy loss mostly happens in the first trimester of pregnancy or within the first 20 weeks of gestation.
Who is at risks of having a miscarriage?
- a woman who is older than 35 years old
- a woman who has a previous miscarriage
- a woman who takes alcohol and caffeine in a high portion every day
- a woman who smokes
A woman who experiences a miscarriage usually goes through hard periods. It takes times to deal with the grief, anger, guilt, and depression.
Here are some things a woman can have to heal her pregnancy loss:
- talking to her partner, family, or friends about the miscarriage and the feelings she has inside
- keeping the memory of the lost child by naming him/her
- storing the child’s photos
- writing about her feelings on the loss, or just about anything she wants to write
- seeking advice by joining a support group to find comfort
Hopefully those efforts will lead to acceptance toward the miscarriage, which brings the woman into a brighter day in the future. The times when she can handle her emotions better. The future of hope and optimism.
And if she plans to have a baby, this article may help.
September 2nd, 2006 at 9:46 pm
My name is Venicia, I’m only 15 years old and recently (May 1, 2006) I had a misscarriage. I know I’m young, but my baby meant everything to me. Though I didn’t plan or want to get pregnant at such a young age, I excepted the fact that I was. In the short amount of time that I had with my child, we formed a very close bond. I felt like my baby was the only person in the world that I could tell my secrects. I prayed for me and my child every night, and until this day I still do. I just can’t except the fact that my baby is gone… Though i hold myself together on the outside, the inside is falling apart. I miss my baby, and I wish it was here. Never giving life to the only person who’s heard your heart beat from the inside can bring you down. Now I’ll never getting to hear those baby cries, that I longed to hear for four months. Just seeing a mother and her child, brings me to tears. Life is so beautiful, exspecailly when you have someone to share it with. “I miss my baby.”
Always,
Venicia W.
September 5th, 2006 at 3:23 am
Dear Venicia,
I’m really sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I don’t know exactly how it feels to lose the unborn child, but I know I can feel your sadness. I know how beautiful it was to feel somebody inside my belly. I don’t mean to bring you to tears now, dear. I just want you to remember those beautiful things when you still have the baby in your womb. Just remember the good things and how he/she had filled your days with smile and laughter…
You don’t need to throw away the memories. It is a part of your life. Just go on by having a better day in the future. You didn’t say anything about the cause of your miscarriage, but I hope you can be more careful with your future pregnancy.
Venicia dear.. It’s absolutely a big step that you’ve done here. You wrote it down here, expressing your deepest feeling. I hope that leads you to a relief. It’s good for you. Have you talked about it with your mom? Or somebody close? Talking to someone will help you ease the pain.
Well, I guess that’s a bit from me. I hope I don’t make your situation worse. I’m just trying to help a little. Hope it really helps.
I’d like to thank you too for reading this blog. I’m honored that you’re so brave to tell your story here.
Love,
Adwina
September 21st, 2006 at 12:00 pm
Dear Venicia,
I also just had a miscarriage and I am looking online for a little support.I don’t know anyone around me who has had a miscarriage so nobody really seems to understand the emotions Iam going though.Even though Iam 23 and you are 15 ,the emotions of losing a baby are the same and they are real and you are so brave to write your story down for the whole world to see.Just Know we will heal in time.
Always
Nicole
September 21st, 2006 at 11:48 pm
Dear Nicole,
I feel so sorry about your miscarriage. I’m so proud of you and Venicia that both of you are so brave to share what you feel.
I hope this blog gives a little support for you and other women out there who feel the same way too.
And I do hope that you and the others will heal in time, just like you said.
If you have anything more to say, please come over here again and share what you feel. I hope it can heal your sadness. If you don’t mind, I will have a post about women’s feeling of a miscarriage they had. What do you think?
Thank you so much for visiting this blog and leaving a comment. It means a lot to me.
Warmly,
Adwina
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