Insparenting

My husband and I always try to make decisions together. Although for certain cases, I let him make the final one, and for some other cases, I make the final one. It depends on the case.

However, what’s needed most is discussion. The discussing process is more important than the decission. It’s the learning process of growing up together as couple.

The maturity of relationship seems to give a huge impact on deciding what’s best for the whole family. During the first year of marriage, couples usually end up debating instead of discussing. But further more, as the years go by, understanding is already well constructed.

“For us, marriage is more a finesse game than a power game. It requires ‘the suggester’ and ‘the discusser’ as much as it does ‘the decider.” [nytimes.com]

So, it doesn’t matter who makes the decision. What matters is how the decision can make the whole family happy.

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