I have two kids. Both are different. And those theories I’ve got from the books can’t always be used for both.
I have to understand which can be used for Olivia and which for Jerome.
The difference is not simply because one is boy and one is girl. It’s more than that.
So, in order to understand how to deal with each of their ‘actions’, I really really have to know them. I have to understand their reason of behavior. If I do, then it will be easier for me to take action.
It doesn’t mean that I’m always sure if the action is the best thing I’m supposed to do. But, then, I think, at least, I’ve first tried my best to understand, then take actions.
A friend of mine posed that question above to me on our Sunday chit-chat over the phone, “Have you ever taken a moment and asked yourself, ‘Am I a good parent?’”
“Yes,” I answered.
“Me, too. But I never can answer it. Can you?”
“Yes, dear. I think I’m a good parent.”
“I know that I always use my heart and love to handle my kids. That makes me a good parent, I think.”
“Mm…you’ve got it right, Naeva,” the friend then said.
So, parents. As long as you use your heart and love…you ARE a good parent!