Your Baby’s First Crush - How to Handle?

Is your little one, say, your 4-5 year old boy or girl gets a crush on someone?
Don’t get drawn by your shock or make fun of it too much.

Here are the best ways to handle this early crush:

• Don’t try to dissuade your child or talk to her out of her/his feelings, as long as the crush is moderate.
• Show reasonable interest - ask him or her, “Why do you like this friend so much? Is he/her nice to you?”
• Allow sensible responses and activities such as sending birthday gifts or cards, or flower for valentine.
• If it becomes too intense or obsessive, talk to them

These tips can be used not only when your baby gets a crush on a friend, but also on a furry mascot.

This entry was posted on Tuesday, July 4th, 2006 at 12:54 am and is filed under Parenting(t) . You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.

6 Responses to “Your Baby’s First Crush - How to Handle?”

1. emma
   July 5th, 2006 03:24
   1

   Naeva,
   Thanks for linking me. You give some good tips on handling that all important first crush.

2. Dawn
   July 7th, 2006 01:17
   2

   I cannot wait for this day! I got my first crush when I was kindergarden. Kindergarden has come and gone for my son and he has still shown no interest. Other than wanting to marry me lol. I am just trying to enjoy this time before he gets girl-crazy. Once it happens I will wonder why I was in such a rush for it.

3. Blogger: Post a Comment
   September 9th, 2006 01:02
   3

   […] I’m also very excited to hear this story, Stephanie! Um… about McKenna.. is this Noah’s first crush? Maybe you need some tips about it: how to handle your kid’s first crush.Hope that helps .Have a wonderful weekend with your little boys!Love,Adwina […]

4. keihifqcjk
   June 23rd, 2007 21:14
   4

   Hello! Good Site! Thanks you! fmkrcctdog

5. rzdmwuirpm
   June 27th, 2007 19:40
   5

   Thanks for this site!
   hifue.info

6. eileen
   July 24th, 2007 15:34
   6

   My son is just 4 year old and having a crush on a girl in his classroom. I guess… He only remembers her name and asks his teacher whether she will come to class every morning. He does not really know how to talk to her. He just needs to find her and get close to her for a while. One day I saw him tickling her and came back to me to say that she did not like to be tickled. Today, after went into the class, he came close to her and kissed her arm suddenly. She apparently was not offended but did not appear to enjoy it either. After that kiss, my son went one way and that girl went another way.

   My son is not very mature and not very socialized. His father and I not very socialized either. Most of the time, he would play by himself in classroom. He almost never remembers his classmates names. So, I am happy to see that finally he is paying attention to some kid in his class. But I did not imagine it would be like this. Should I encourage this by setting up some playdates for him with the girl? He is asking me to invite her to our home. Or, should I discourage him by not mentioning this any more?

   He is my first kid, and I never thought I would have this problem. Do you have any idea?

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Your Baby’s First Crush - How to Handle?

Is your little one, say, your 4-5 year old boy or girl gets a crush on someone?
Don’t get drawn by your shock or make fun of it too much.

Here are the best ways to handle this early crush:

• Don’t try to dissuade your child or talk to her out of her/his feelings, as long as the crush is moderate.
• Show reasonable interest - ask him or her, “Why do you like this friend so much? Is he/her nice to you?”
• Allow sensible responses and activities such as sending birthday gifts or cards, or flower for valentine.
• If it becomes too intense or obsessive, talk to them

These tips can be used not only when your baby gets a crush on a friend, but also on a furry mascot.

This entry was posted on Tuesday, July 4th, 2006 at 12:54 am and is filed under Parenting(t) . You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.

6 Responses to “Your Baby’s First Crush - How to Handle?”

1. emma
   July 5th, 2006 03:24
   1

   Naeva,
   Thanks for linking me. You give some good tips on handling that all important first crush.

2. Dawn
   July 7th, 2006 01:17
   2

   I cannot wait for this day! I got my first crush when I was kindergarden. Kindergarden has come and gone for my son and he has still shown no interest. Other than wanting to marry me lol. I am just trying to enjoy this time before he gets girl-crazy. Once it happens I will wonder why I was in such a rush for it.

3. Blogger: Post a Comment
   September 9th, 2006 01:02
   3

   […] I’m also very excited to hear this story, Stephanie! Um… about McKenna.. is this Noah’s first crush? Maybe you need some tips about it: how to handle your kid’s first crush.Hope that helps .Have a wonderful weekend with your little boys!Love,Adwina […]

4. keihifqcjk
   June 23rd, 2007 21:14
   4

   Hello! Good Site! Thanks you! fmkrcctdog

5. rzdmwuirpm
   June 27th, 2007 19:40
   5

   Thanks for this site!
   hifue.info

6. eileen
   July 24th, 2007 15:34
   6

   My son is just 4 year old and having a crush on a girl in his classroom. I guess… He only remembers her name and asks his teacher whether she will come to class every morning. He does not really know how to talk to her. He just needs to find her and get close to her for a while. One day I saw him tickling her and came back to me to say that she did not like to be tickled. Today, after went into the class, he came close to her and kissed her arm suddenly. She apparently was not offended but did not appear to enjoy it either. After that kiss, my son went one way and that girl went another way.

   My son is not very mature and not very socialized. His father and I not very socialized either. Most of the time, he would play by himself in classroom. He almost never remembers his classmates names. So, I am happy to see that finally he is paying attention to some kid in his class. But I did not imagine it would be like this. Should I encourage this by setting up some playdates for him with the girl? He is asking me to invite her to our home. Or, should I discourage him by not mentioning this any more?

   He is my first kid, and I never thought I would have this problem. Do you have any idea?

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