baby shower????
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ok so i know alot of people who have just had one baby shower for their 1st child which is normal… and i know others who have had more than one baby shower for each of their children… is it ok to have more than one baby shower? i dont want to be disrespectful by having a second baby shower because im having a second baby…
so my questions are:
1. how many baby showers is it ok to have?
2. if you have more than one baby shower in a lifetime what do you ask for the second time around?
3. is it ok to have 1 baby shower when your pregnant with a boy and then have another baby shower when your pregnant with a girl?
any advise or personal experience appreciated!! thanks!
March 31st, 2008 05:45
I think it’s okay to have more than one baby shower. I would have my best friend or sister or someone have it for me. I had two baby showers. You might want to invite some different people.
March 31st, 2008 22:12
1.) You can have as many as you want just don’t invite the same people twice.
2.) Same as the first one if you need it.
3.) Yes different things
April 1st, 2008 22:56
I think it’s ok to have as many babyshowers as you want… but you have to go to some baby showers yourself.. lol
and try saving your stuff from your first pregnancy as hand-me-downs for your second…
April 5th, 2008 03:06
I think you can have as many baby showers you want! Showers are a great way to celebrate maternity and most of all, a great ritual to welcome the little being to be born. Maybe the 2nd or 3rd baby shower could be more a celebration without a lot of gifts, but more like a party where all friends and close relatives are invited. If you need some more stuff you can also ask for it, but I’d keep the 2nd and 3rd more casual..
April 5th, 2008 11:11
I had 2 baby showers. My work through one for me so did my friends & family outside of work. I have only had one baby so I am not sure what I am supposed to get the 2nd time around. If you have a boy then have a girl then y ou would need another baby shower to get the stuff for the girl that a boy wouldn’t need.
April 8th, 2008 06:34
Etiquette is to have one baby shower. Having more than one would be normal if you were 16 with your first child and 32 with your second. If there are many years between children it’s not seen in a bad way. But if it’s close family and friends who want to have one for you, then go for it!
April 11th, 2008 12:18
I think it has more to do with your society, do the people you know commonly have more than one shower? I know that in my society we commonly have a baby shower for each sex, or if the babies are boren many years apart.
Something that you can do though is to have a Meet the Baby barbeque or luncheon, where your friends and family can all come and see your new pride and joy, and visit your older child (you don’t want the older one to have hurt feelings.) and then people may bring gifts if they wish to, and many will.
April 13th, 2008 14:01
1. I say only do one for the first baby thats how we do things in my famliy anyways. but its ok to have more then one and some people cant afford a lot of things for their new baby so that always helps them out wich is nice.
2.Pretty much the same things like clothes,lotions,diapers,wipes all things you will need again.
3.yeah
April 13th, 2008 18:08
it’s OK to have a baby shower whenever you want! i would say at least one for every child you have.. and multiple showers for the same child if you have alot of friends who don’t know each other… each child is special and is something to be celebrated. your friends won’t show up if they don’t care..and you know they do! make a list of stuff you need and attach it to your invitation..and don’t forget to take the time to write thank-you cards… they will appreciate that you took the extra time to make them feel special.
April 14th, 2008 02:42
I had three baby showers with my first, and I will have another for this baby. I don’t see a problem having another baby shower with your second especially if it is of the opposite sex. New and better things come out for babies all the time. I will be using most of the big stuff again, but I want to get newer things that have come out and new nursery stuff. By the way I am having another girl.
The three showers were from friends, work, and then a couple’s shower with my husband.
April 14th, 2008 13:40
If someone wants to throw you a baby shower, that is not a problem at all. Some people need an excuse for a party. However, I would put down that “no gift required”.
I personally don’t attend or buy gifts for 2nd baby showers. They are no longer a new mother, which was the whole point of a baby shower in the first place. The exception would be if the mom never had a shower the first time. If a close relative of friend had a second child, I would likely make that child an afghan/quilt as well.
I do love the idea of Stacy’s ‘two week survival’ meals! (Her post is below). I would whole heartedly buy into that!
April 16th, 2008 15:51
If someone wants to throw you a baby shower, let them, but with your second, unless they are several years apart and you don’t have all of the staples anymore, I wouldn’t expect it or throw it myself.
If you do have a second baby shower, ask for stuff you need. If you’re having a girl and the first was a boy, you can have a baby clothes shower since you obviously don’t have hand-me-downs. Diapers and wipes are staples, along with hooded towels, formula if you’re not nursing, or nursing supplies if you are.
Also, is your first still in a carseat? You won’t need another infant carrier unless the first one is more than 5 years old, but if your first is not yet in a booster seat, you will need another carseat.
You may also want to ask for a double stroller if you think you’ll need one.
You’re probably going to want a new crib mattress as well since it’s recommended that each child has a new one, though it’s not absolutely necessary. It’s just to give the new baby maximum support. A new mattress also won’t have the slight indentations (not always visible) from the way baby #1 slept and will be able to “mold” to the new baby better.
But I can’t think of anything else that you’d need as far as “big stuff” if you already still have the staples from baby #1.
Another idea for a shower could be first weeks survival. Rather than bringing a traditional gift, guests could bring frozen meals that can be easily reheated or gift certificates to a restaurant / catering place so you won’t have to think about preparing food the first few weeks. From what I’ve heard it’s even worse with the 2nd, especially if the 1st is young, since you can’t neglect their nutritional needs. Also certificates to come over and do laundry or dishes, etc.
That’s about all that I can think of. Good luck and congrats!
April 17th, 2008 00:46
It used to be taboo to have more than one shower…ask Dear Abby. But now people have showers for all their children. I lived in 3 different places for three different kids, so different friends gave me showers, and two of those were 15 months apart. I even suggested not to have the second one, and my friends assured me it was fine because they were not at the first one. With this new one, I had lost everything baby (crib and all) to Hurricane Katrina so my co-workers here wanted to do something for me. I also think timing of babies makes a difference (how far apart they are).
If your friends want to give you another shower, I think that is fine. By the way, I have had 3 boys. Obviously, if you are having a baby of different gender you need some different items.
April 18th, 2008 20:05
General tule of ettiquite is you can have a baby shower if:
1. its your first child
2. it is your 2nd (or3rdetc) but your partners1st.
3. it has been 5 years or more since your last child.
4. you had a girl and now a boy (or viceversa) but do not register for all new stuff(crib, stroller , playpen Etc) just because you are having a shower. try to keep it to gender specific things.
basicly just respect your friends and familys wallet.