baby shower????????????
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ok…i had a baby shower with my first pregnancy and she passed away shortly after birth. my family and friends knew she might not make it after she was born but they wanted to be positive so they had a baby shower for me. now i am four months pregnant with my second and i’m just wondering if it is wrong to want to have another baby shower for this baby. the stuff i got with my first all went to a friend who had her baby right after me. i kept a few of the big things but i would like to have another. is it ok?
i lost my daughter 7 months ago. i have a very understanding family. they were the ones who suggested giving the things to my friend. they thought it would be hard on me to have them after she passed away.
April 29th, 2008 21:02
I think so. This is a new baby and new chance for life. I hope and pray the best for you and your baby. Good luck with everything.
May 2nd, 2008 14:13
You can have another, even without your circumstances from your first baby it would be ok. Lots of people have 2 or 3 or even more baby showers. I had one with my son and a small when when I had my twins, mainly because I was having girls AND twins and needed all thet stuff I could get.
I have friends who have had more than 1 baby shower, I dont see anything wrong with it
May 5th, 2008 21:02
to me, it really depends on how long it has been since you were last pregnant. if it has been over 5 years, i say ok to a 2nd shower. otherwise friends & family might have hard feeling about you giving their first gifts away.
May 5th, 2008 21:53
I don’t see why not. I had 2 showers. I am sure your family and friends would throw you a shower anyway.
May 9th, 2008 06:41
It would have been way to hard to save the things. My friend gave everything away from her first with ended the same way. I don’t think there is anything wrong with having another baby shower! You will need things all over again, plus shower’s are more than parties to get presents….I think they kind of celebrate the baby. Go for it!
May 10th, 2008 05:45
I think that it would be perfectly normal and fine to have another baby shower for your new little blessing.I am sorry for the loss of your daughter-I too am pregnant and cannot imagine losing my baby.I say have one to celebrate this new little life!
May 11th, 2008 07:39
I believe that it would be alright to have a second baby shower. Since people were aware of the situation with your first child, I think they would be understanding and want to celebrate with you as you welcome a new life into the world. And I found an etiquette article which says that all babies should be celebrated. I think that since your situation with your first child was special, other people would want the chance to celebrate your new pregnancy with you.
I hope for health and happiness for you and your new baby.
May 13th, 2008 19:36
First, sorry to hear of your loss. I know that is hard.
Second, OF COURSE you can have another shower!! Why on earth not???? If someone you invited has an issue, tell them they won’t be missed!! You should celebrate your new baby, and i am sure your friends and family feel the same. If they don’t want to “buy” you things, then maybe they could make you something personal and meaning ful (scrap book, letter to the baby, quilt, etc) I am sure you would appreciate it just as much!! And given that you no longer have those items, why would anyone object??
So poo on them if they think it is wrong, shame on them too!!
So, have your shower and have fun!!!
Congrats on your baby!!