Does YOUR baby sleep with you, OR sleep in crib…?
kaykella2 asked:
Ok parents, how is the sleeping arrangement in YOUR house. I have a BIG Cal-King bed, and my 10month old sleeps with me in it, mostly cause at night, he doesnt wake up when he has me next to him… Also, my fiance works nights. When my fiance is OFF nights, my son will either sleep in his crib, or with me…
What do you do, and for how long have you done it, and how old is the baby? Just wondering… I am trying to figure out just how many people DO let their babies sleep with them. MY mom never was really nurturing to me AL ALL~ So, I think because I am the NURTURING type, my son is actually a lot happier. He is a real LOVER… LOVES to cuddle, and is a sweet boy because of it… What do you think? When I was pregnant, I SWORE Id NEVER let him sleep with us! It is tradition on my fiance’s culture to sleep with the parents/gradparents, the babies… So, I dont mind him in our bed. A LOT of people here in Hawaii do! Do you?
My son has a crib in our room, and in his own room. But, he seems to prefer to sleep in a larger bed. Not always ncessarily cuddling. However, he HATES the cribs, if he is placed into one and is AWAKE< he doesnt like it. I think its the whole, CAGE thing. Once he can walk, Ill buy him a toddler bed, as he is a bigger 10 month old. See how that works for him. I will NOT have a child sleeping with me at the age of 10. I was never allowed to sleep with my mom, even when I had a bad dream. So, when he gets older, he is always welcome with me, in my bed, but I will have him sleeping in his bed too. I think at the age of 1 1/2, or after he is fully not on the bottle anymore I will have him not sleeping with us by then for sure!
December 2nd, 2007 16:33
Crib. And I’m also very cuddly and nurturing with my kids. The two aren’t mutually exclusive.
December 4th, 2007 01:09
My daughter is 23 months and she sleeps in her own crib in her room. She has been sleeping in her own room since she was little. I have tried to get her to sleep with me a few times, and she doesn’t sleep well with others. She has to be in her own bed.
December 4th, 2007 08:12
My daughter (8) and my son (4 mo) both had the same sleeping arrangements. For the first 2 months they slept exclusively in a bassinette unless I happened to fall asleep while nursing my daughter(I wasn’t able to nurse my son). Once they’d gotten to around 3 months old they’d sleep in their crib at night and their “long nap” during the day was in bed with me, tucked into the crook of my arm. Both the kids and I slept the best during the naptime…I love the feel and smell of the baby cuddled up!!
December 6th, 2007 09:19
Since my husband works a different shift, my nights get lonely and I like to cuddle up with my baby. He sleeps better then. But on Daddy’s days off, into the crib you go! Our crib is in our room, right next to the bed. Right now, since he’s 6 months, I’m giving him more time in the crib so he can get used to it. I remember bothering my parents at 5-6 years old wanting to sleep with them so I know what will happen if I don’t get him used to sleeping on his own.
December 7th, 2007 23:29
everyone loves cuddling babies,
its when they get bigger and take up more space that we have problems, ALSO when you have more than one baby
again space and safety being the issue
PS I have 3 sons, and a king sized bed,
on any given day we are kicked out of our bed by the kids
M
December 8th, 2007 22:59
My son is six months. I put him to sleep in his crib which is right next to my bed, when he wakes up around 2 or 3am I bring him to bed with us. I’m nursing and it’s just easier for me.
December 9th, 2007 11:40
My daughter is almost 2 and she still crawls into our bed sometimes. She slept with us for about 3 months or so, did not want the crib as she got older, but now she has a toddler bed and likes it a lot better.
December 9th, 2007 12:23
My first child…………..0-3 months - in a bassinet in our room; 3 months to 18 months - her crib; 18 months to present - her own bed - EXCEPT friday nights she gets to sleep w/us. Makes it something for her to look forward to…….
December 12th, 2007 10:03
honestly, my mother did that to me when i was a baby and i got so used to it that i was sleeping in the same bed with her until i was 12! it drive my father crazy, its cute now yes but wait a few years and you will want him sleeping in his bed but he wont want to.
my daughter is 4 months old, she sleeps in her crib. when we first brought her home from the hospital she slept in her bassinet beside my bed and hated it, at about 2 weeks, we learned she wanted to be in her crib and she started sleeping through the night around 2 months.
December 13th, 2007 11:26
My youngest son just turned a year old yesterday and I’d say he sleeps with us and in his crib about 50/50. He normally starts out in his crib and some nights he moves his way to my bed at 3 or 4 in the morning.. It doesn’t bother my husband or myself. OUr oldest son is 5 now and he slept in our bed off and on until he was 2, and has probably only crawled in our bed 4 or 5 times in the past 3 years. Ideally I would like for my kids to sleep in their own beds, but as long as it isn’t disrupting to my relationship with my husband or disrupting to getting sleep, I really don’t care.. little ones are so snuggly.. It is a nice memory for the future.
December 16th, 2007 21:01
My Daughter sleeps in her cot in her own room, as has done for about 6 months now, occasionally if she is quite unsettled through the night i will bring her into bed with my partner and i, but thats in on the rare occasion.
December 17th, 2007 06:44
The United States is the only place in the world that thinks having a baby sleeping with you is wrong. My son slept with me until he was 8 years old and he is not psychologically scarred, or a momma’s boy or anything like that! I think it promotes security, love and well-being. Go for it!!
December 19th, 2007 16:58
my 8 motnsh odl sleeps with my fiance and me- all three of us love it- and i am a firm believer of what i like to call “natural parenting”. who says sex can only be done at one time and one place? my love life is fantastic. it’s the way humans were meant to be- indians didnt place their babies in another teepee or anthing and they also tended to their childs needs and yes cuddling and love is a need. i love to snuggle with ym son. i have a female ped and she is completely fine with me doing this, in fact co-sleeping reduces the risk for sids for many reasons. and studies have shown that babies who co-sleep tend o have a better relationship with their parents as teens and adults
i didnt co-sleep wiht ym aprents but i still tried to sneak in their bed at nighht so i could feel safe- im glad my knows im there to protect him- co sleeping does more good than harm- i dont consider weaning if it harm- the benefits outweigh the risks
December 20th, 2007 00:41
We family bedded with all three of our kids, now 17, 15 and 5.
The oldest and youngest (both boys) pretty much wanted there own sleep spaces by the time they were one and my daughter didn’t start sleeping in her own bed until she was 2 and a half. Lots of cultures have had and still have the family bed and there is nothing wrong with it and shows the kids how much you love them, even at night. Not one of my kids have ever had sleep difficulties and never whined about going to bed, even in there own beds. It was a great experience and I miss it.
December 21st, 2007 10:39
Right on, My3Boys! She’s right…. where a child sleeps & how nurturing a parent is have absolutely nothing to do with each other… I love to cuddle my 6-month old, and he’s been in his crib in his room since 5 weeks. We ALL sleep better when he sleeps there!
December 23rd, 2007 03:15
My son is one.
We have a queen mattress (no box spring or frame) flat on the floor, scooted into the corner.
He has slept with us since he was born, except a few times when we were staying elsewhere, then we took his pack & play for his saftey (he adjusted fine to it).
Oh and he is the sweetest, most loving child. I too am very nurturing & just get all warm & fuzzy inside when I see him. He is all smiles, kisses, says “thank you”, gives big hugs, snuggles up… When we go to bed he gives me a kiss, wraps his little baby arms around my neck and falls right asleep.
I think being more attached to children causes them to learn to love & to be attached in return. And by attached I don’t mean “whiny snivling brat who can’t do anything by themselves” I mean, well adjusted, loving child who knows and trusts his or her parents to be there when he or she needs them.
My son can play by himself for quite a stretch, he just likes to run up for a hug once in awhile…
I love sleeping with him close by. It makes me feel safer for him, and he has always “slept through the night”.
December 24th, 2007 13:05
i live in ohio and i think it is allright to let a baby sleep with you untill they are about 4-5 and then they need to sleep in theire own beds….i have a almost 5month old daughter and i let her sleep with me when my husband isnt in bad with me but other then that she sleeps in her crib. the longer you let them sleep with you the harder it is to break them when they are older…they’ll be 10 and still want to sleep with you…there goes your sex life…lol…good luck….
December 26th, 2007 12:43
my son is 9 months and sleeps in a crib in my room. when his daddy is working late though he sleeps with me =) & when hes sick he sleeps with us.
December 26th, 2007 20:26
we did it with the first one, we too had a king size bed. It made things easier for baby sleep wise, but after awhile it got to be too much, and getting her outta my bed was impossible! she was about 4 if not a little older when she finally stayed in her own bed all night and i started at age 2. with my second, i learnt my lesson and didnt want the troubles again of trying to get her outta my bed, so just kept her in her own since she was born.. some people love it, some people dont. To each there own, just like any parenting choices.
December 29th, 2007 03:55
My daughter who is 3 sleeps in her own bed and so does my 19mth old but when they were babies all the way til they turned 1 they each slept with us. My son who is 9wks old sleeps with us now, I think it’s easier this way that way when he cries I can feed him or change his diaper easily or cuddle him.
December 31st, 2007 03:56
My daughter is 3 she just starting trying to sleep in her own room. She falls asleep in her room for about 4hours the other half she walks into our room and get’s in bed with us. I think it is okay. It took us this long to get this far and were not going to force her to sleep there allnight at once.
It’s totally fine in my book. Just don’t let grandma and grandpa in. LOL!!!
Tell them to get out!
January 1st, 2008 00:38
My son (who is now 7 months) slept with us in a sleep nest (one with protective hard plastic walls) until he was 2.25 months old. We did this because he slept better when he could hear us next to him, and honestly, we slept better hearing him too.
At 2.25 months, he became mobile. He started skittering out of the nest and really moving in his sleep (he is a mover to this day - we have a video monitor and marvel at his gymnastic abilities in his crib). At that time, for his safety, we moved him to his crib in his bedroom.
We were lucky - we never had any transition issues at all. If and when he has nightmares as a toddler, I expect that we’ll have a periodic visitor during the night, and we won’t mind it a bit.
January 3rd, 2008 20:31
We co-slept with our daughter at first. It was great!! We only have a Queen size bed, so by the time she was about 6 or 7 months, it was getting cramped. So we switched her to her crib. She had a couple weeks rough adjustment, but now she LOVES it! It’s funny how she knows it’s her space.
She’s 14 months now. In the mornings, it’s our tradition to bring her in bed with us and nurse and cuddle.
I for one do believe that lots of mommy and daddy time and being held most of the first 6 months are really important for attachment and building your child’s security and confidence. My daughter was high-need; wouldn’t sleep unless she was being held, for months! But once she transitioned to being in her own bed, she showed how secure she was in our love. She never cries at church when we bring her to the nursery, plays really well with other kids, and reaches out to anyone to pick her up. She is one happy confident kid. Keep it up and switch your son when YOU are ready.
January 5th, 2008 20:14
I have a 2 month old and she sleeps in the bed with us. I know that they say it isnt safe for them, but honestly I dont see how. I actually feel safer having her next to me rather than in another room where I cant see her. I did this with both my kids…both were very good and happy babys.
January 9th, 2008 06:48
We cosleep. My son is 14 months old.
My daughter used to cosleep but didn’t start until she was about 1-1 1/2. She moved to her own bed at 3 or 4 no problem.
My son does have a crib. My daughter uses it as a bed for her stuffed animals and sometimes her babies.
January 12th, 2008 15:08
Ok with both of my kids they co-slept with my husband and I until they where about three months a piece. I had to get over that brand new SIDS panic. I just needed to know that they where ok sleeping in the big ole crib in their rooms by themselves and that they where good night sleepers. But Im pretty sure that at 10 months old that your baby will be ok in the crib alone.
January 13th, 2008 13:00
My 8 year old slept with me when he was a baby. He hated the crib and bassinet. My 4.5 month old sleeps in his crib, playpen or bouncy seat. When we take a nap during the day I sometimes lay him with me.
January 16th, 2008 17:58
my son is 9 weeks old, and I’ve been struggling with this because socially it is considered weird or wrong to have your baby sleep with you, but i find it to be so enjoyable and natural and not to mention very easy because of nursing….my baby hardly wakes up completely to nurse and we both go right back to sleep…he also is a lover and a cuddler….and i, too, while pregnant didn’t think I’d let him sleep with us, but now that he’s here it just instinctively feels right and it works for us, so we’re just going with it!