Step parenting??
Robert P asked:
I have been in a LTR for three years. My lover was pregnant when I met her. I was there when the baby was born. I have been the father since day one/ my heart is in it. Her five year old/ now eight, and I formed a bond as her really has not had a male figure in his life. Now three years later, my lover/ wife to be, does not allow me to be his father, but expects me to at the same time. She spanks the baby, won’t spank him, she scolds the baby, is diplomatic with him. She wont work, won’t keep the house clean either. So at the risk of all of you sending me to the DR. Phil show, can this work, I love this family, but I am just exhausted.
January 2nd, 2008 07:44
It seems to me like you’re just a bank account for her. She needs to get her act together and either let you in all the way or stop using you for financial support.
You obviously want to be there, but I have doubts that she wants you there for anything other than money.
January 5th, 2008 03:41
If your not happy now and she won’t allow you to parent, get out while you have only wasted 3 years. If you stay don’t complain to us about your predicament.
January 8th, 2008 14:32
Sounds like you partner has some deep-seated emotional issues that must be resolved before entering into deeper commitment with her. You must seek professional help for her. She is obviously taking you for granted and need help. Get to the bottom of her emotional issues and find some peace in your lives. If she is unwilling I think you need to think twice about a deeper commitment. Click below to find ways to help her.