Archive for April, 2007

Woman with PCOS & Miscarriage

Monday, April 16th, 2007

Someone sent me a letter last week, asking about PCO and a miscarriage she happened to experience a few weeks ago. I think, it’s better if I write the reply here just in case other women experience the same thing.

Dearest M,

PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) is a syndrome of hormone imbalances.

PCOS is characterized by enlarged ovaries that contain numerous small and painless cysts. This is because the ovary doesn’t make all of the hormones it needs for any of the eggs to fully mature. They may start to grow and accumulate fluid, but no one egg becomes large enough. Instead, some may remain as cysts. Since no egg matures or is released, ovulation does not occur and the hormone progesterone is not made. Without progesterone, a woman’s menstrual cycle is irregular or absent. Also, the cysts produce male hormones, which continue to prevent ovulation.

Also, the interruption of the egg’s maturation process may cause abnormal chromosomes in the egg. This might increase the probability of a miscarriage.

However, don’t worry. It can be treated. There are some treatments that can be done especially if you still wish to conceive, such as:

Fertility Medications. This one can be chosen since the main fertility problem for women with PCOS is the lack of ovulation. Metformin can be taken with fertility medications and helps to make PCOS women ovulate on lower doses of medication.

Surgery (Laparoscopy). This surgery can lower male hormone levels and help with ovulation. But these effects may only last a few months.
Maintaining a healthy weight. Since obesity is common with PCOS, maintaining a healthy weight can help. Even loss of 10% of her body weight can help make a woman’s cycle more regular.

Consult with your ob/gyn to find out which treatment is better for you. Hope you can get the best one.

Love,

Naeva

They Need YOU!

Saturday, April 14th, 2007

Many parents out there give everything their children want to lessen their guilty feeling for not spending enough time with their little ones. Jobs, business, and other activities are the reasons they use.

I understand that they might need to take double jobs, day and night, to be able to support the family. But…hello…your kids need you to be there when they grow up, too.

Kids love presents but, your presence is actually more important.

Thursday 13 – 13 Signs of a Verbally Smart Kid

Thursday, April 12th, 2007
  1. When he’s 3 months young, he shows interest in people who are talking or in eye contact
  2. As young 6 month old, he can say ma, pa, da…
  3. At the same age, he understands simple instructions such as “Show your nose…”
  4. At 1 year old he has more than 200 vocabs
  5. At the same age, he can combine two words, such as “Drink milk…”
  6. At at least 2 years old, he has good articulation
  7. At 3 years old, he can say “I want milk”
  8. At 4 years old, he can make full sentences
  9. At 5 years old, he can create simple stories
  10. At the same age, he can even write the stories down
  11. At 6 years old, at school, he shows more interest in certain lessons such as reading, writing stories or poems
  12. He has a great memory
  13. He has a good argumentation skill
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Tuesday, April 10th, 2007

Keep telling yourself this phrase…

Child Abuse: Why It Happened and How to Help

Monday, April 9th, 2007

When I was a teenager, a very sweet friend of mine told me a shocking story. She shared her deepest secret while showing me some bruises on her arms and legs. She had been abused by her father.

Every time she did something that her father disliked, she got bitten. Her father claimed that all he did was just to punish her so that she didn’t do the same ‘mistake’ anymore.

But, hey, punishment wouldn’t cause injury for it is done, actually, with love.

She asked me not to share this with anyone else. As much as I wanted to help her, I couldn’t do anything but letting her use my shoulder to cry on. She moved out of the house a year later. She even moved to another city. I don’t know how or where she is, now. I hope she can forget that sad part of life and move on with her life.

But why parents abuse their children? According to my readings, the causes could be:

  • Stress, including the stress of caring for children, or the stress of caring for a child with a disability, special needs, or difficult behaviors.
  • Lack of nurturing qualities necessary for caring for a child.
  • Difficulty controlling anger.
  • Personal history of being abused.
  • Isolation from the family or community.
  • Physical or mental health problems, such as depression and anxiety.
  • Alcohol or drug abuse.
  • Personal problems such as marital conflict, unemployment, or financial difficulties.

I think, for my friend’s case, it was her father’s alcohol issue.

But, how can you help those children?

Contact your local enforcement agency. No need to worry about your own safety. You do not have to give your name when you report child abuse. The child abuser cannot find out who made the report of child abuse.

Act now, and save those children’s life.

Happy Easter!

Sunday, April 8th, 2007

I love seeing my kids coloring the eggs…don’t you?

A Question: Why Should I Have to Be a Good Parent?

Saturday, April 7th, 2007

What would you answer if someone asked you that question?

Me? I was speechless!

Ask Yourself: Am I a bad parent?

Friday, April 6th, 2007

Does being consistent to your rule make you a bad parent? Not at all.

No matter how hard your kid cries, you ARE a good parent, indeed.

Thursday 13 – 13 Tips for a Healthy & Comfortable Pregnancy

Thursday, April 5th, 2007

Yes, it’s again about pregnancy. Not that I’m ready for a third child but I’d just love to help those who are pregnant enjoy their moment.

So, here are some tips for a healthy & comfortable pregnancy:

At home:

  • If you’re a cleaning freak, please adjust your standard with your ability to do it. Don’t push yourself. A clean house is great but there is no need to get extremely exhausted for that.
  • Get help. If you can’t pay a maid, well, maybe now you should ask your husband to do more errands.
  • Lessen your grocery shopping intensity.

At the office:

  • Don’t climb up the stairs too often, it might make your heart works harder.
  • Bring lunch. Not only can you prepare healthful meals, you can also save your energy by not having to go out to get food.
  • Avoid overtime. Organize your time and do your jobs based on priority.

In public places:

  • If you plan to go for a vacation or simply recreation, choose a place that’s safe, comfortable and easy to reach.
  • Avoid visiting shopping center too often. Pregnancy sometimes makes you get dizzy easily.
  • Don’t get too excited while preparing for the trip. No need to prepare 5 meals. Or, better, just buy them. You can use your energy for the recreation instead.
  • Make yourself comfortable during the trip. Choose a snug seat.
  • Use your right. If you get tired and need to sit, for example in a public transportation, ask someone to give a seat to you.
  • Make sure you don’t sit or stand too long.
  • Take a moment to sit with you legs straight or take a walk for a while.

Hope you all enjoy your pregnancy…!

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Ask Yourself: Am I a good parent?

Tuesday, April 3rd, 2007

I have two kids. Both are different. And those theories I’ve got from the books can’t always be used for both.

I have to understand which can be used for Olivia and which for Jerome.

The difference is not simply because one is boy and one is girl. It’s more than that.

So, in order to understand how to deal with each of their ‘actions’, I really really have to know them. I have to understand their reason of behavior. If I do, then it will be easier for me to take action.

It doesn’t mean that I’m always sure if the action is the best thing I’m supposed to do. But, then, I think, at least, I’ve first tried my best to understand, then take actions.

A friend of mine posed that question above to me on our Sunday chit-chat over the phone, “Have you ever taken a moment and asked yourself, ‘Am I a good parent?’”

“Yes,” I answered.

“Me, too. But I never can answer it. Can you?”

“Yes, dear. I think I’m a good parent.”

“How come?”

“I know that I always use my heart and love to handle my kids. That makes me a good parent, I think.”

“Mm…you’ve got it right, Naeva,” the friend then said.

So, parents. As long as you use your heart and love…you ARE a good parent!